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Sustaining a Strong Partnership

Five research-backed behaviors that keep relationships thriving

RelationshipsInfo SheetFree ResourceLast reviewed April 2026

Sustaining a Strong Partnership

Five research-backed behaviors that keep relationships thriving

Sustaining a Strong Partnership

Five research-backed behaviors that keep relationships thriving

Healthy relationships do not run on autopilot. Like any living system, they require consistent attention and care. Decades of research on relationship maintenance (Stafford & Canary, 1991; Ogolsky & Bowers, 2013) have identified a core set of everyday behaviors that go with greater relationship satisfaction and commitment. These behaviors are small everyday habits that signal investment, respect, and partnership.

Positivity

Set an upbeat tone.: Maintaining a generally positive and optimistic atmosphere does not mean suppressing real feelings. It means choosing to focus on what is going well, offering genuine compliments, being playful, and approaching challenges with a collaborative spirit. Studies show that stable couples keep roughly a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactions, even while discussing a conflict (Gottman, 1994).Example: Instead of criticizing how your partner loaded the dishwasher, you let it go and comment on how good dinner tasted.
In practice: Give sincere compliments. Be spontaneous and playful. Look for silver linings during stressful periods. Avoid chronic criticism or scorekeeping.Example: After a long day, you greet your partner with a smile and say, 'I am really glad to see you,' rather than immediately bringing up the bills.

Openness

Share your inner world.: Emotional intimacy deepens when partners are willing to disclose their thoughts, feelings, hopes, and concerns. This includes talking directly about the relationship itself, addressing small issues before they become resentments, and sharing dreams for the future.Example: Telling your partner, 'I have been feeling disconnected from you this week and I would like us to spend some time together this weekend.'
In practice: Be honest about how you are feeling. Express your needs and wants clearly. Raise concerns early rather than letting them fester. Discuss where you see the relationship heading.Example: Instead of silently resenting that your partner works late every night, you say, 'I miss our evenings together. Can we set aside two nights a week for us?'

Assurances

Demonstrate commitment consistently.: Trust in a relationship is not established once and then set aside. It must be reinforced through repeated actions that show the relationship is a top priority. This is especially important during conflict, when partners may feel most insecure about the relationship's future (Johnson, 2019).Example: During a disagreement, saying, 'I am frustrated right now, but I want you to know I am not going anywhere. We will work this out together.'
In practice: Express loyalty and dedication verbally. Never threaten to leave during arguments. Follow through on promises. Make deliberate efforts to reconnect after disagreements.Example: After an argument, you initiate a conversation the next morning to check in and say, 'I am sorry about last night. How are you feeling today?'

Shared Responsibilities

Approach life as a team.: Equitable sharing of tasks and decision-making communicates mutual respect and prevents the buildup of resentment. Research shows that how couples divide housework is an important predictor of relationship satisfaction (Carlson et al., 2020), and in dual-earner marriages, feeling that the split is unfair goes with lower marital happiness for both partners (Frisco & Williams, 2003).Example: Sitting down together on Sunday evening to divide the week's errands and childcare responsibilities based on each person's schedule.
In practice: Divide household tasks based on ability and preference rather than assumption. Support each other through career changes, health challenges, and parenting demands. Make major decisions together.Example: One partner handles cooking because they enjoy it, while the other manages the finances because they are good with numbers, and both feel the arrangement is fair.

Social Connection

Invest in your shared social world.: Couples who maintain strong ties with friends, family, and community report greater resilience during difficult periods. Spending time with shared friends and family is one of the core maintenance behaviors linked to relationship satisfaction and commitment (Ogolsky & Bowers, 2013).Example: Hosting a monthly game night with friends or making a standing plan to have dinner with extended family gives you shared experiences and a support network.
In practice: Prioritize time with mutual friends and extended family. Seek support from trusted people during challenging periods. Participate in community activities or volunteer work as a couple.Example: Volunteering together at a local food bank once a month gives you a shared sense of purpose and introduces you to other couples with similar values.

References

  • Carlson, D. L., Miller, A. J., & Rudd, S. (2020). Division of housework, communication, and couples’ relationship satisfaction. Socius: Sociological Research for a Dynamic World, 6, Article 2378023120924805. https://doi.org/10.1177/2378023120924805
  • Frisco, M. L., & Williams, K. (2003). Perceived housework equity, marital happiness, and divorce in dual-earner households. Journal of Family Issues, 24(1), 51-73. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513x02238520
  • Gottman, J. M. (1994). What predicts divorce? The relationship between marital processes and marital outcomes. Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.
  • Johnson, S. M. (2019). The practice of emotionally focused couple therapy: Creating connection (3rd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781351168366
  • Ogolsky, B. G., & Bowers, J. R. (2013). A meta-analytic review of relationship maintenance and its correlates. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 30(3), 343-367. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407512463338
  • Stafford, L., & Canary, D. J. (1991). Maintenance strategies and romantic relationship type, gender and relational characteristics. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 8(2), 217-242. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407591082004

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